Cliffhanger Ideology

After watching Frontline's "Cliffhanger", I was struck by how politically insensitive and intransigent Barack Obama was. From the insult to Paul Ryan to the secret meetings with Boehner to Biden revealing those secret meeting to Obama's reneging on his deal with Boehner. And yet, the political explanation for the impasse is that the conservative Republican Tea Party candidates from 2010 were ideological, politically naïve, and not used to governing. But can't the same be said for Obama? Isn't Obama the one alienating and insulting the very people with whom he's supposed to make a deal? Isn't Obama the one asking people to trust him and then violating that trust? Isn't Obama the one making things difficult by asking for much more after deals have been agreed to? This inconsistency stems from the fact that the media, those reporting on these interactions, implicitly agree with and support the President, and whatever impedes his agenda gets identified as "obstructionist" and "ideological".